BOTH.
A conversation game for couples. Some questions are easy. Others you’ve been saving for the right moment.
Each partner answers privately. Then everything opens at exactly the same time. What you decide together gets sealed in your shared Ledger, and stays.
Free to start · one subscription covers both of you
The Game.
Every round has three beats. They happen in order, and nothing skips ahead.
Answer privately
Each partner answers on their own side, completely sealed. Your response is invisible until both of you are ready.
Reveal together
When both have answered, both cards open at once. No peeking, no editing. Just two honest answers meeting in the open.
Agree, Disagree, or Park
Decide together. Agreements are sealed into your Ledger. Disagreements become resolutions. Parks return when the time is right.
Shape the conversation.
Pick a moment or build your own mix of categories. Nothing is shared until both of you are ready.
By occasion
Pick a moment
The deck keeps shuffling. There’s a moment for every kind of night.
By category
Build your mix
A deep library of hand-built questions across 39 piles, plus your own custom decks
The Ledger.
Every agreement sealed, every disagreement turned middle way, every topic waiting until you’re both ready.
Every entry opens. The first one is open for you, tap any other to read it.
Alignment Map.
Not a score. Not a percentage. A picture, per category, that updates as you play.
Warm-Up & Fun
AlignedEffortless ground
Living Together & Daily Life
AlignedMostly in step
Money & Finances
AlignedTwo philosophies, one budget
Trust & Jealousy
CloseWorth revisiting
Kids & Parenting
Worth an eveningA real conversation
The Distance Endgame
Worth an eveningStill working it out
The closer the two circles sit, the more of the world you already see the same way.
AI, as a facilitator
A third voice, only when you both ask.
After a reveal, BOTH. can offer one gentle follow-up question, written from your two answers. It deepens the conversation; it never judges it, never takes sides, and never speaks uninvited.
Each follow-up needs both of you to say yes, every time. Only that one pair of answers is used, and never to train anyone’s models.
“You both reached for a signal. Decide right now what yours actually is.”
Depth, when you’re both ready.
Some piles stay sealed until you both say so. Questions for late hours and low light, asked without judgment, answered with the lights down.
“A desire you’ve never said out loud to any partner?”
Unlocks only when both of you opt in. Never assigned, never suggested by the app.
One couple, one vault.
Everything you write belongs to the two of you. Not to us, not to anyone else. That is structural, not a promise.
Answers are locked until you both commit, and open only together. Nobody, including us, reads your vault.
Amending the Ledger takes both of you. Deleting the vault takes both of you. Nothing in BOTH happens to one of you alone.
Nothing ever reaches a therapist that both partners didn’t explicitly share, and access ends the moment either of you taps revoke.
The Paper Trail.
Every agreement you seal together exports as a certificate with both names, the date, and two signature lines. Not a legal document. Something more personal than that.
This confirms that
Goekay & Roberta
have decided together:
“Experiences first, with one splurge allowance per year, each.”
NOT A LEGAL DOCUMENT · BOTH. © 2026
Therapist Mode.
For couples in counseling. Both partners answer privately, consent to what the therapist can see, and can revoke access at any time.
How it works
Four beats, session to session.
Consent settings
Goekay’s view, each partner controls this independently.
Nothing reaches the therapist without explicit, per-item consent.
Built for therapists, clinics, and premarital counselors.
A separate practice plan lets you assign questions, review answers before sessions, and track progress across clients. All with their full consent.
